Self-Care: Taking Time for Yourself
You are a busy woman. A Wife. A Mother. Perhaps an employee or student. With all the obligations in your life it is understandable that you consistently put YOUR needs behind everybody else's needs. This post is all about self-care, taking time for yourself!
You are probably thinking that sounds good, but how do I do that? I am not only going to tell you how, more importantly I am going to to you WHY!
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So what is self-care anyway? Self-care is a general term that means anything you do that is just for you and nobody else. Katherine Hurst in this article explains it like this:
"In a nutshell, it’s about being as kind to yourself as you would be to others. It’s partly about knowing when your resources are running low, and stepping back to replenish them rather than letting them all drain away." ~Katherine Hurst
A word of caution, while self-care is about doing things you enjoy, not everything you enjoy is beneficial. For example, over-eating, excessive alcohol consumption, or illicit drug use. It is a slippery slope when you substitute destructive behaviors for constructive coping mechanisms.
The key word here is excessive. It's perfectly okay to treat yourself to a decadent dessert every once in a while or meet up with your bestie for cocktails.
Taking time for yourself, well, takes time! The best way to engage in self-care is to put it on your schedule, that is, if you have one. If you don't have a schedule, well it is no wonder you are frazzled!
Let me tell you a little secret. I was probably the most un-organized person on the planet! Things like:
- Forgetting a scheduled appointent
- Failing to return library books on time
- Running late
- Getting some WAY too early, because I thought I was late.
- Always playing catch-up because I didn't have a plan
- Constantly starting new craft projects, many of them never completed.
If this sounds like you, I'll tell you what I did that made ALL the difference in the world. I started a Bullet Journal. No really thats it. I track my schedule, my goals, my spending, healthy and not so healthy activities. Really everything!
If you need help getting started, Sublime Reflection has a wonderful post about bullet journals.
Here are a few items to get you started!
Taking Time For Yourself
You may feel guilty for even think about doing something for yourself. Let's get one thing straight, engaging in self-care activities makes you a better you!
- Increases productivity
- Boosts your immune system
- Inspires creativity
- Helps increase self-awareness
- Enhances self-esteem
And think of it like this, a better you makes you a better partner, a better mom, and a better employee!
8 Ways for Taking Time for Yourself
Yep. I said it, the dreadful E word. We all know we should do it, but many Americans do not exercise regularly. According to HealthyPeople.Gov 80% do not meet the minimal physical activity guidelines!
Moderately healthy adults should engage in at least 150 minutes (2 hours and 30 minutes) a week of moderate-intensity, or 75 minutes (1 hour and 15 minutes) a week of vigorous-intensity aerobic physical activity, or an equivalent combination of moderate- and vigorous-intensity aerobic activity. Aerobic activity should be performed in episodes of at least 10 minutes, and preferably, it should be spread throughout the week. ~Key Guidelines for Adults
2. Drink More Water
I truly have to make a conscious decision on this one. So how much water should you be drinking? Mayo Clinic recommends about 15.5 cups (3.7 liters) of fluids for men and 11.5 cups (2.7 liters) of fluids a day for women.
If drinking water isn't your thing, trying adding some fruit!
Meditation has many benefits. This article from Huffington Post, 8 Ways Meditation Can Improve Your Life, reports:
- improved concentration
- encourages a healthy lifestyle
- increased self-awareness
- increased happiness
- increases acceptance
- slows aging
- improved cardiovascular and immune health
Now that is a lot of bang for your buck, and best of all it doesn't cost yo a dime!
4.Just Say No!
Let's face it, volunteering to chaperone every single field trip or making homemade gifts for everyone of your children's teachers does not make you a better mom!
As parents, we are overstimulated and over-committed; we are mentally and physically exhausted. In the end most of what we do is not all that important.
Take some time to prioritize what is truly important to your family and eliminate everything else.
5. Read a Book
Pick something from your favorite genre and read a book. If reading isn't your thing, download an audible version and multi-task!
6. Take a Bubble Bath!
For me, there is nothing more relaxing in the tub. I always had some lavender-scented Epsom salts, because they have soothing properties making this old gal's aching muscles!
I fill the tub, lock the door, and soak while reading a great book! Now if I could just get John to bring me some wine, it would be perfect.
7. Get a Pedicure
I LOVE sporting some super-cute tootsies, we are in sandal season, after all, ladies. And as a bonus you get to sit in those wonderful massage chairs.
8. Arrange for Some Girl Time
When was the last time you had a "hen party? I love getting out of the house now and then with some gal pals. Call up that friend, the one you have neglected and make a lunch date.
If you are a stay at home mom, ask your partner if they can manage the brood for a little while. Or join a Mom's group, which makes moms and kiddos happy. A win-win!
What do you do to take care of yourself? Leave a comment and let me know! I hope you found this post helpful, I am going to take a bath! ~Lisa
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